Would You Have Sex with Someone for Money?

[praying]

Would you, if so how much moeny would it take for you to accept?

If not why not?

[Lanakila]

The Robert Redford movie Indecent Proposal comes to mind. I don't know how much it would take but a million dollars would surely do it.

[praying]

The Robert Redford movie Indecent Proposal comes to mind. I don't know how much it would take but a million dollars would surely do it.

No matter who the buyer was, would that matter or would the bottom line be the amount of money?

[Kopilo]

no, I can not objectify myself or other enough, even strip joints bring a sickening feeling to my stomach.

[pageroks]

No I wouldn't. I am not on of those people who can just have sex. I love my husband to much to cheat. I am worth more than any amount of money someone can throw at me.

[Spherical Time]

I would consider it, depending on the person and the amount.

[ravenscape]

Depends on how badly I and my family needed the money.

[praying]

I would consider it, depending on the person and the amount.

Would you have hetereosexual sex and for the straight person would you have gay sex, or sex with multiple partners at the same time?

[UberLutheran]

Would you have hetereosexual sex and for the straight person would you have gay sex, or sex with multiple partners at the same time?

Honestly, I don't think I could DO straight sex.

It's just too... ....creepy and icky to think about doing! http://www3.christianforums.com/images/smilies/sick.gif

[ravenscape]

Would you have hetereosexual sex and for the straight person would you have gay sex, or sex with multiple partners at the same time?
I honestly don't know what I would do if it were the only (or even the best) means to provide shelter, food and medical care for my family. I don't think I would. But I never have and don't ever expect to be confronted with the decision.

[Abiel]

A story.

I had a friend who has previously worked as a nurse in an STD clinic. It was mainly self referring, and there were forms to fill in when a new patient arrived. One of the questions on the form was 'Have you ever paid for sex?' One harrassed looking middle aged chap replied 'not with money, no'...

[Teshi]

I honestly don't know what I would do if it were the only (or even the best) means to provide shelter, food and medical care for my family. I don't think I would. But I never have and don't ever expect to be confronted with the decision.

Yeah, if it were just me I'm taking care of, I'd give it a flat "no" without any more thought. But if it were a last resort to take care of my family, and we were in a really desperate situation? I don't know. I don't know if I could bring myself to do it, but I'd have to think about it.

And at the risk of sounding like an asshole, there are plenty of relationships that basically boil down to "having sex for money" even if they aren't a formalized exchange. People starting and/or continuing a physical relationship for the material benefits.

[cas07]

no amount of money would be enough to pay me to have sex with anyone other than my husband. i do not believe sex outside of marriage to be a wise choice, and unless he was the one paying me...

[seebs]

The Onion had a headline some years back: "FBI busts housewife in sex-for-money scheme"

[Spherical Time]

Would you have hetereosexual sex and for the straight person would you have gay sex, or sex with multiple partners at the same time?My standard for having straight sex would be higher than for gay sex. My standard for group sex would be higher than gay sex, but lower than straight sex.

Otherwise though, the standard is the same: I would consider it, depending on the person and the amount.

[sparklecat]

Yeah, I'd consider it. In most even vaguely plausible situations, I'd feel better getting my partner's approval first. In general, if it was legal and there were appropriate safety precautions (and a reasonable living could be made), I'd have no problem considering prostitution as a profession.

[David Gould]

I doubt that anyone would pay me for sex, but in the right circumstances - which would necessarily include me being single - I would not have a problem with it. Prostitution does not worry me. (a stripper I knew got very offended that I did not see a difference between stripping, prostitution and being an editor, as she was morally opposed to prostitution ... I wonder if there are any people out there morally opposed to editing ;))

[UberLutheran]

no amount of money would be enough to pay me to have sex with anyone other than my husband. i do not believe sex outside of marriage to be a wise choice, and unless he was the one paying me...

I know you're straight and I'm gay (whatever little difference that really makes!) — but honestly, I feel the same way about my partner that you do about your husband.

Let's say I accepted $10 million to have sex with someone besides my partner. I have a feeling that, over the years, the resentment and the damage caused by having sex outside of my relationship would greatly exceed the $10 million I received — and to me, it's just not worth it.

[cas07]

I know you're straight and I'm gay (whatever little difference that really makes!) — but honestly, I feel the same way about my partner that you do about your husband.

Let's say I accepted $10 million to have sex with someone besides my partner. I have a feeling that, over the years, the resentment and the damage caused by having sex outside of my relationship would greatly exceed the $10 million I received — and to me, it's just not worth it.this is the main reason, along with the damage my relationship with God would suffer - just not enough money in the world to be worth the damages.

[sparklecat]

I know you're straight and I'm gay (whatever little difference that really makes!) — but honestly, I feel the same way about my partner that you do about your husband.

Let's say I accepted $10 million to have sex with someone besides my partner. I have a feeling that, over the years, the resentment and the damage caused by having sex outside of my relationship would greatly exceed the $10 million I received — and to me, it's just not worth it.

Assuming there would be resentment and damage. In my view... it's just sex. I asked my partner, and he's given his consent should someone want to give us a million for sleeping with me (though he's unsure whether 10 grand would be sufficient, which I'd be ok with), which makes it less of an issue. Of course, your partner may be more possessive than mine.

[Swart]

I don't know how much it would take but a million dollars would surely do it.
Well, now we know the type of person you are, let's discuss price:

How about $200? ;)

[Lanakila]

Assuming there would be resentment and damage. In my view... it's just sex. I asked my partner, and he's given his consent should someone want to give us a million for sleeping with me (though he's unsure whether 10 grand would be sufficient, which I'd be ok with), which makes it less of an issue. Of course, your partner may be more possessive than mine.My view is quite similar. I am in a relationship and we would have to settle on how much would be worth it to us.

[Lanakila]

Well, now we know the type of person you are, let's discuss price:

How about $200? ;)
What type of person is that? Are you insinuating that I lack character? Because if so you are wrong. Sex is sex. Cheating is only wrong if you have agreed with your partner to not have sex outside of the relationship. Every relationship is not the same and being different doesn't necessarily mean better or worse.

[Ashes]

Suprisingly, my answer to that question is "yes." Yes, I would have sex for money, I don't know how anybody could really have seen the desperation of poverty and say that no they never would do it.

I have a ton of self-respect. Regular sexual encounters, assuming I wasn't married, I don't come cheap. I require much more than the average whore, does that make me more respect-worthy? I require devotion, dedication, not a man who would pay me a hundred bucks and walk away, a man who would pay up to millions of dollars during his lifetime. The flipside of that is, for a man who would do that for me, I would do the same thing, give all that I have, share all that I have with him. Thus, I am married.

But I respect women who do it for their children, for their families, because that's all they could think to do at the time. But I only respect it under those circumstances. Women who have the choice, I think it's rather dispicable. They even disrespect the women who have to do it, by doing the same thing for choice.

But, I still see women who do it out of desperation as victims. They are victims of society, and victims of the men who use them, and pay so cheaply. I, as a self-respecting person, if say a man were to ask me, and he looked desperate, "wanna come with me, I'll show you a good time, only a hundred bucks," I'd say here, have the hundred bucks. Well, I don't know, he could be seriously hopped up on drugs, could make him come back trying to get more money out of me, but I mean more for men who would go through with it, pay for sex, they should just pay, and miss out on the sex. They're abusers. The people on the bottom have little power to change the system, it's the users and abusers, oftentimes the leaders in society, who are responsible for changing things. In that sense, the prostitute probably has very little guilt compared to whomever else is involved in the crimes.

Part of the thing I hate about it is the women who choose to do it generally are more attractive, have this or that, and the women who are desperate are of another type. Problem with that is, the women making big money out of it, and only being praised for it, they think they're better than the desperate whore. They think their shit don't stick half as bad. Truth is, it stinks much worse.

[sparklecat]

Oh, regarding straight/gay sex, it's not an issue for me, but I asked my partner who is very very very straight and he'd have gay sex for a million.



Ashes, why would you see prostitution by choice as wrong? I don't understand that view; to me, it's just another service industry.

[Ashes]

But it's so interesting even to talk to strippers. They think they're so much better because they're selling the illusion, they're increasing the want, and yet they're somehow better because they don't actually "go through with it."

To me it's a joke. You're just a tease, skirting around the edges, teasing men you would never let really touch you, because that's somehow "cleaner", more self-respecting, more righteous. Making yourself the object, who's one step higher than the prostitute, or so you think. Ha, you're just fooling yourself girl, a girl who is a tease is somehow better than a girl who gives what they're promising? Not from my perspective.

I ain't never teased a man I wouldn't actually sleep with if I was free to.

[Ashes]

Oh, regarding straight/gay sex, it's not an issue for me, but I asked my partner who is very very very straight and he'd have gay sex for a million.



Ashes, why would you see prostitution by choice as wrong? I don't understand that view; to me, it's just another service industry.


It's not just another service industry, talk to any gay man, their sexuality is so intertwined with their identiy, they can't seperate the two, as an example. Sex is more personal than one's ability to type. Sexuality is more integral than one's memorization ability. It's not just another service industry because sex and identity are much more closely related than whether or not one gets paid ten bucks an hour to wait tables are not.

A lot of promiscuous people, who don't respect themselves sexually, as a prostitute doesn't, are people who have a lot of mental problems, that's just the reality. "It's just a service," no it's not. It's just the perpetuation of the cycle of abuse. Women who choose it are almost worse than the men buying, because they're women, who are helping to perpetuate the cycle of abuse towards other women.

Look to why women are generally prostitutes, and then find out why it's not just another service industry. A lot of them were already victims of something, before they became victims in this way. Healthy people may wake up in the morning and go crunch numbers all day, healthy people do not wake up in the morning and sell their identity for money.

[sparklecat]

You seem to be arguing by defining prostitution, promiscuity, etc., as not respecting yourself or having mental problems; what makes it so? What makes you think someone cannot have a healthy sexuality without an attachment to monogamy?


Personally, I see my mental abilities as much more personal than my sexual identity. Perhaps that's why I don't see a difference.

[praying]

You're just a tease, skirting around the edges, teasing men you would never let really touch you,

Rule 2.9 infraction Baiting AND Brinking!!!









:D sorry could not resist!

[Ashes]

Sorry for all the different posts, I keep going doing something and coming back with a thought.

The question for me is, if it's just another service industry, why aren't you already doing it? Why should I go to work for eight hours today, like I'm going to, make a hundred bucks or so, when I could just advertise myself and make a thousand, hundred bucks an hour? Is that just the price of having a real relationship, you can't just go out and do that because it's cheating, or is it a question of self-respect?

If it's legalized, why doesn't the government refuse to pay out unemployment checks until someone has tried to work as a prostitute too, because it's just another service industry which we are all capable of doing?

Because the government knows, and I know, and I'm pretty sure that you know that that's not exactly what it is, whether you feel distinctions should be able to be drawn or not. A lot of prostitutes in this world are forced into it by their cultures, others are victims of circumstance, some of them were raised in it as children, some of them were illegally and immorally prostitutes as children, also victims of circumstance, and others were sexually abused as children and found another unhealthy outlet for the pain of that. Lots of stripping and prositution is bound up in sects bound up in drugs, and violence.

If it's just a service industry, how about we say thusly, some service industries are healthy and productive, constructive, others are damaging, unhealthy, and destructive. Prostitution is one of the latter.

[sparklecat]

What makes it damaging? I would argue that the stigma society places upon is it responsible; if our culture did look at it as just another service industry, I don't think everyone working in that job would secretly feel demeaned and abused. People are forced into non-sexual slavery as well; we don't make everything they're forced to do illegal to the people who choose it.


As for why I'm not doing it, there are a few reasons. It's illegal, my partner is monogamous, and I don't have the training.

[Ashes]

You seem to be arguing by defining prostitution, promiscuity, etc., as not respecting yourself or having mental problems; what makes it so? What makes you think someone cannot have a healthy sexuality without an attachment to monogamy?

A lot of promiscuity, even in our teenagers growing up today, once it's passed the point of experimentation, and moves on to actual promiscuity, find that it's oftentimes a self-abusive behavior. They want to be men, they think they should be able to treat sex like men do, but they can't. How much do depression do you see in Universities these days? I know of lots and lots. Men and women alike, damaged by their behaviors.


Personally, I see my mental abilities as much more personal than my sexual identity. Perhaps that's why I don't see a difference.


Alright, so I've watched you have a debate, I've listened to some of your beliefs, you've utilized some of your skills and mental abilitites, you've shown them to me, I've seen a picture of you, so if I ask you then, for a nude picture, you would have no qualms of putting one up even though you claim that your sexuality is not much more important to you than what you do, and what you think, what you have to say, and your skills with logic and critical thinking.

My guess would be, lets assume you did put up a picture of yourself, and many people were very critical, you would be hurt. My guess is if I tell just that you're wrong about something you believe, you'd shrug as if it were almost nothing. You'd care if I found a nude picture of you lacking, and not care if I found a belief of yours deficient.

But maybe you're different than the rest of us, and would respond differently. But for most of us, the above would be the case.

[Ashes]

As for why I'm not doing it, there are a few reasons. It's illegal, my partner is monogamous, and I don't have the training.


Sexual slavery is much more degrading than non-sexual slavery. You hear of what happened to black peoples back in the day, when they were slaves, that was bad. But then to hear of property owners slaking their lusts with their black servant girls, that's even worse.

You hear of people going to jail for crimes, that sucks. But then you hear of people going to jail and part of the punishment of being in jail is being raped, that's even worse.

You hear of a father physically abusing his child, or verbally, that's bad. You hear of a father sexually abusing his child, that's even worse and we all know that. It's more invasive, and for the child, it is harder to heal from, that's the point, sexuality goes more to the core of a person's being than other things do.

And all I can ask you, why then are you not trying to make it legal, why would your partner have a problem with dating a prostitute, and because "he's monogomous" is not a good enough excuse, and why don't you go to prositution school just as readily as you would go to University for any other reason?

[sparklecat]

Alright, so I've watched you have a debate, I've listened to some of your beliefs, you've utilized some of your skills and mental abilitites, you've shown them to me, I've seen a picture of you, so if I ask you then, for a nude picture, you would have no qualms of putting one up even though you claim that your sexuality is not much more important to you than what you do, and what you think, what you have to say, and your skills with logic and critical thinking.

My guess would be, lets assume you did put up a picture of yourself, and many people were very critical, you would be hurt. My guess is if I tell just that you're wrong about something you believe, you'd shrug as if it were almost nothing. You'd care if I found a nude picture of you lacking, and not care if I found a belief of yours deficient.

But maybe you're different than the rest of us, and would respond differently. But for most of us, the above would be the case.

I think there's a difference between personal and private; my mental abilities are more defining and important to me. Assuming, however, that I did put up such a picture and people commented negatively, sure, I'd be hurt. But someone saying they disagree with my beliefs is more along the lines of a gay man saying he doesn't find me attractive, IMO. If instead I took part in a debate and thought I did as well as I could have, and someone I respected for their intelligence and looked up to told me that I was an illogical idiot based on that, I'd be much more upset.

[sparklecat]

And all I can ask you, why then are you not trying to make it legal, why would your partner have a problem with dating a prostitute, and because "he's monogomous" is not a good enough excuse, and why don't you go to prositution school just as readily as you would go to University for any other reason?

Ok:

1) I don't care enough to crusade. I think it's idiotic that it's not legal, but if I was going to turn into a political activist, there are more important things I'd address first. If it came to a vote, I'd vote in favor of making it legal.
2) Monogamy seems a rather good reason to me; my partner is possessive of me. If you're asking me to explain why monogamy is important to him or anyone else, I can't. It's not something I understand and I see it as an irrational position. I can ask him to respond later, if you wish.
3) There aren't any prostitution schools. In terms of my own education, had I not gotten together with my partner when I did, I intended to gain knowledge and experience with older men.

[Martin]

What makes it damaging? I would argue that the stigma society places upon is it responsible; if our culture did look at it as just another service industry, I don't think everyone working in that job would secretly feel demeaned and abused.

See Holland, for instance.

[Martin]

why would your partner have a problem with dating a prostitute, and because "he's monogomous" is not a good enough excuse

That's a singularly stupid statement. Of course it's a good enough excuse. If one values monogamy, dating someone who is by definition not practicing monogamy is going to be a problem.

[seebs]

I think it's clear that this is a field where there's rel individual variance in what's comfortable, or uncomfortable. Some people can decouple their emotional involvement from the physical experience of sex, some can't.

[BelindaP]

What type of person is that? Are you insinuating that I lack character? Because if so you are wrong. Sex is sex. Cheating is only wrong if you have agreed with your partner to not have sex outside of the relationship. Every relationship is not the same and being different doesn't necessarily mean better or worse.

I don't think he was blasting your character. That's a punch line to an old, old joke.

[Lanakila]

I don't think he was blasting your character. That's a punch line to an old, old joke.

Said to me that way it was insulting. I can take an insult but I usually strike back in kind.

[seebs]

I didn't think it was intended as a personal comment, merely as a response to an irresistible straight line.

[jackrabbit]

I would not have a moral objection, it's just a catch-22: the women I would be willing to hire out to would have no need to pay for sex.

[DarkAngelic]

I only have sex with my future husband. I can't imagine having sex for money or a place to stay. It's not worth it, I rather suffer alone then sleep with someone I don't love.

[Mrs.Sidhe]

I don't have an objection. I mean I support the legalization of prostitution so it would be silly for me to have an objection. Besides my partner and I have had a open relationship before and at some point many, many years in the future (like when my daughter is grown) may again. *shrugs*

[Paris]

They all want to have sex with me for my money, I all turn them down because they aren't hot enough!
One guy Oh my like God, had a zit and he wanted to touch miss Paris? Oh no! Get away back up, you got flaws.

[Kaonashi]

Only thing I'd require before doing it would be a complete STDs check.

[praying]

No posting in this thread it is a sin!! ;)

[Lanakila]

I don't believe in sin so I guess I am fine then praying.

[praying]

I don't believe in sin so I guess I am fine then praying.

It's all good for me who posts in this thread.

[Goodchild]

Considering all the sex i've given away for free over the years, I sure could've done with getting paid for some of it :)

Or, to quote George Carlin:

"Selling is legal, fucking is legal. Why isn't selling fucking legal?" :twisted:

[Goodchild]

But to honestly answer, yes I would have sex for money. The amount would depend on a variety of factors including, but not limited to: attractiveness, cleanliness, gender (women pay more), services requested (women especially pay more for oral. blecchh.) and so on.

Since I am currently in a relationship though, it would also require the consent of my SO. That might up the cost a bit, and i'm not certain I would feel totally comfortable with it. Like Mrs. Sidhe, i've been in an open relationship and while it had it's good points, there were serious drawbacks. But again, that would all depend on the people involved.

[Jello]

My thoughts are mainly for sparklecat. I see you as an intelligent and sensitive person, so I am concerned for you. Your potential is so great, do you even know how great? I don't think you know. There is so much you have to offer to this world. Maybe life has pushed you down, and fed you lies, to where you have lost the knowledge of your great potential. You are needed, very much. The world needs you for great things. And you have much to offer to this hurting world.

It breaks my heart that you would think the best you have to give is given on your back. Sweet dear one, you are worth much more than that. Much much more. For all of the pain you feel, there are others who feel the same pain, and need you to help them.

Please, believe in yourself. Dare to get beyond your pain. Uplift yourself, and uplift others. You are powerful, because you are alive and have much intelligence. Use it for your good, and for the good of others.

Stop believing the lies. Believe in yourself. You are a great person. Believe it.

[sparklecat]

My thoughts are mainly for sparklecat. I see you as an intelligent and sensitive person, so I am concerned for you. Your potential is so great, do you even know how great? I don't think you know. There is so much you have to offer to this world. Maybe life has pushed you down, and fed you lies, to where you have lost the knowledge of your great potential. You are needed, very much. The world needs you for great things. And you have much to offer to this hurting world.

It breaks my heart that you would think the best you have to give is given on your back. Sweet dear one, you are worth much more than that. Much much more. For all of the pain you feel, there are others who feel the same pain, and need you to help them.

Please, believe in yourself. Dare to get beyond your pain. Uplift yourself, and uplift others. You are powerful, because you are alive and have much intelligence. Use it for your good, and for the good of others.

Stop believing the lies. Believe in yourself. You are a great person. Believe it.

First off, let me just say that I really quite appreciate this :)


But in relation to this topic, it isn't necessary. I really don't see prostitution as something demeaning at present. Obviously if I actually was doing it professionally, I might feel differently; I just can't know. But it's really not an issue of poor self-esteem that makes me say I don't have a problem with it. I quite like myself, overall. I may not know what I want long-term, but I do know that I'm capable of most anything I'd want.

[Jello]

I may not know what I want long-term, but I do know that I'm capable of most anything I'd want.




And maybe that's all that matters. Be true to yourself, and give yourself the best things. Dream your best dreams, and be true to them. Damn anyone who dares to take away your dreams. Sometimes, it might only be a thought, something that passes quickly through your mind, and you latch onto it, knowing it is what you want. Go for it. Whatever it might be. Don't let anyone or anything rob you of that.

(((hugs)))

[Paris]

wHY? HAVE SEX FOR MONEY? I GOT SO MUCH hahahahahaahaa

[Tears of Ash]

I don't think I would. I have a very good relationship right now. I wouldn't want to damage it. The thought crossed my mind several times though. It's not safe to have sex with strangers.

Though when I was visiting Japan, I was walking around and someone asked me if I would like pay for sex, and I got really polite and was like no. But after I got back to the hotel, thoughts started racing in my mind and I was like, I might never get this chance again...so I walked back to the city. I couldn't the person again though. Oh well. Now that I look back on it, I'm kind of glad I didn't do anything bad like that. I guess I was thinking with my dick instead of my brain. oh well, it's been known to happen.